There’s a great deal of blessings for a couple that decides to invite Jesus into their marriage. Couples need to go through different stages of tests, having Jesus in the marriage is the biggest protection for the couple as for their offspring.

The first miracle that Jesus performed was at a wedding in Cana of Galilee, where he turned water into wine. He gave to understand that when in a home the joyful flavor that they had in the beginning has been lost,  and the relationship has turned insipid, that’s when the blessing of the lord is needed to change what’s insipid into joyful that will bring happiness to everyone at home.

Desire from God when creating the marriage:

1. For the two of them to be happy:  This is the desire of God’s heart.

God created man with the ability of attraction towards the opposite sex. The attraction created by God is specific: Man towards woman and woman towards man.

God gave Adam an ideal help: the woman. She was to be his help, his support. The two of them would become a team. Think about this: God created all things in an abundant way for the wellbeing of man. But then, Why did he give them only one woman? The answer is in Malachi: 

Raising an offspring for God it's the result of a trustworthy marriage relationship. 

2. For the two to be a team: It isn’t good for the man to be alone. The nature of God is tripartite: Father, Son, Holy Spirit. Even if there are three different persons, they always work as a team. None of them can be ignored because they all have the same degree of importance.

When God created the first couple, he created them in his own image. God didn’t create women to be ignored, nor man to be oppressed. He created them for the two to understand that they are equally important and they need each other.

3. For the man to give the woman her place: 

The first days of marriage are the ones that determine the behavior of what that home will be. The words, attitudes, and thoughts that you have during the first days of marriage are of such importance that they can shape the nature of this union.

What happens on the first days gives a character to the next years. Adam called his wife “woman” accepting that she came from his same nature.

A man told me that the same day of his wedding he flirted and made indecent proposals to his sister-in-law. That same day he gave the character to his home. With that disrespectful act he undermined the woman he had become engaged and took as a wife.

For forty years he had the most unhappy home in the whole world, carrying on an affair with his sister-in-law. For this reason everyone was unhappy. Only when this man truly repented and refused to continue in that relationship the veil fell and he could restore his relationship with his wife.

The honeymoon time is for the couple to build their most beautiful dreams 
with faith, love, and dedication, and to express mutually words of affection, respect, and blessings. 

4. For them to live the intensity of marriage:

When a marriage is beginning, there are many things they have to conquer. It’s the time when you are required to keep the privacy of marriage without giving space for negative comments from other people. The couple must work to give their own personality to their relationship.

5. For them to enjoy the blessing as a couple:

The blessings come in full not when people are single, but when they get married.

God blessed the couple and both received the same degree of responsibilities. If the couple was able to keep harmony, these three blessings would stay upon them:

• Fruitfulness: Fruit is what determines the type of three. The life of the first couple was of innocence and purity, therefore the fruit should be sanctification.

• Multiplication: As it is in the natural, it is in the spiritual. The children in marriage are the result of teamwork. The abundant fruit is seen and it’s what brings multiplication.

• To Rule over: A saintly life must lead to multiplication, and this one to authority. A couple that is united in harmony and led by God’s word is as powerful as the strength of a well-organized army. And success is in always working as a team. When Eve wanted to be independent, a door was opened for temptation. Had she consulted first with her husband, everything would have been very different

6. For them to build a generation for God:

The example given by the couple is what will determine if the children will serve the lord (remember that children pay more attention to your actions than to your words); for this to happen, there must be fidelity from both parts to the pact they made in front of the altar. What good would it be for the constructor of the house if he has no family to inhabit it after him? The great Napoleon couldn’t create a dynasty. Thousands of rich people would give half their possessions if they could hear the cry of a newborn in their family.

7. For them to nurture the couple’s love:

The commission that the lord gave each man was very high: To love their wife in the same level as Jesus did with his church, offering himself in sacrifice for her redemption. It’s fundamental that conjugal love is nurtured on a daily basis with words, attitudes and small signs of affection. They have to make efforts for the wellbeing of each member of the family to avoid any emotional wound. There has to be a deep commitment from the couple to not allow the flame of love to lose its strength or for it to be extinguished.

You must have full conviction that God didn’t make a mistake, and you married the right person. Ask God to transform your angst and pain and even distance waters in a new wine of joy and understanding. Our heavenly father can start again the flame of romantic love, bringing joy to your home for you all to raise a generation for God.